With so many tutorials and information on the web, we have lots of curly information at our fingertips. Please have a little read of my 10 Curly Commandments for silky curls that hold their shape and size all day long!
- Begin the journey of self-love.
This for me has been by far the hardest part. As a wee one I was fairly cute but definitely very frizzy and fluffy. As a little girl you constantly see long, Disney straight hair and no matter how many brown dolls my Mum bought me, this definition of beauty stuck with me. Fast-forward a few years and we found ourselves moving from London to Ireland where there wasn’t a huge amount of people like me that I could identify with and this left me longing for silky, straight hair. I straightened my hair for the first time when I was around 8 and couldn’t believe the difference! I could run my fingers through my hair, brush it without turning into Hagrid and it had dropped about 6 inches. Feeling super pretty and swishy, this started me off on my straight hair mission. Travel a few years further and I have now started high school, teenage discos began to be the norm and again I felt I was the odd one out. My Mum could sense my distress and helped me to relax my hair for the first time. Although it felt dry and had lost its shine, I still felt happy with the results. The relaxant had made it easier to straighten and straighten it I did! I’d straighten it before school, after school and sometimes again if I was going out in the evening.
Years of this daily hair torture, along with frequent relaxing led me to having my waist length hair continually break until it was the length of a long bob. The ends were burnt and frazzled and it couldn’t have been drier. Dry, damaged and short, I did what many others do and looked for a disguise. This led to the years of hair extensions.
Weave, clip ins, bonds – you name it, I’ve tried it and while long hair was now mine, I never got used to the pain of weave or having someone else’s hair that close to my face!
After years of this struggle, I finally just couldn’t be bothered anymore and I went to a new hairdresser feeling defeated and again pleaded my quest for long hair. My hairdresser told me the standard advice of less heat, frequent cuts and leave it alone a little more. 6 years on and after following this advice, I’m finally getting there. I still can’t believe it when people compliment my hair!
Does this mean I don’t ever use heat and I’m completely natural all the time? Absolutely not!
I still love a GHD and trying different styles however I am slowly bridging the gap and starting to balance my time between natural and styled hair.
Read below to find out my chosen steps.
- Find your own rules.
Wash it once a day, wash it once a week. Deep condition every day or let your hairdresser do it once a month! Natural hair is a huge topic and with popularity comes popular opinions. Do your own thing, try it out and figure out what works for you.
- Find your own ritual
I will explain this a little more below but my very simple ritual is as follows:
- Wash and condition
- Dry slightly
- Add in a gel to define
- Add in a cream to condition
- Seal and go!
- + a deep conditioning treatment 1-2x a week!
- When you wash – please go natural, sulphates are a no no!
Natural shampoos are in their heyday and although there are some gems, there are some truly, truly rubbish ones that don’t lather at all and feel as if they haven’t cleansed your hair in the slightest.
Ideally, we want something that leaves our hair feeling clean but also hydrated however this can be hard to find.
My go to at the moment is: Maria Nila True Soft Shampoo and Conditioner
- Hydrating, strengthening and it helps prevent against split ends. These two are a curly girl’s dream.
- Free from Parabens and Sulphates whilst being jam packed with anti-oxidants and Argon oil – my hair feels squeaky clean but unbelievably soft afterwards.
*Top Curly Girl Tip – Wash your hair in the bath so you can sit up have a little read, apply a face mask or whatever you like while you let your conditioner soak in for around 5 minutes!
- When you dry – ditch the towel!
Now this little tip is no secret but I truly thought it couldn’t make that much of a difference until I tried it.
Yes you can buy a microfibre towel but if you don’t want to do this, you can find an old T-shirt and wrap it around your head until your hair feels a little more manageable. My only issue now is that my T-shirts are too small to dry my hair properly so I have to find someone else’s to pinch. Sorry in advance to my boyfriend!
*Top Tip – Drying your hair with a tee isn’t only for curly girls but for anyone who deals with frizz. Friction from a normal towel only increases the fuzz!
- Brush it once and only once!
What’s that old myth?
“Brush your hair 100 times a day to make it shine?”
I guarantee if you try this with naturally curly hair it will just get bigger and bigger, frizzier and frizzier until all you can think of doing is grabbing your shampoo and conditioner and starting again!
Pop in a detangler or any conditioning leave-in product, brush until tangle free and then leave it alone! Most curly girls recommend a wide toothed comb but I still prefer a Tangle-teezer, quick and easy and I’m finished in seconds.
- While its drying, add in product, product and more product.
Once I’ve removed my T-shirt (or someone else’s T-shirt) and ensured my hair is knot free. I add in my defining product. This step shapes my curls throughout the day and keeps them keep their structure.
My product of choice is: Shea Moisture Coconut and Hibiscus Curling Gel Souffle.
- This product took me ages to get on with. Its super rich consistency is perfect for curly hair and it should be due to the company’s focus being African hair.
- Agave nectar, coconut and hibiscus has this organic, chemical free product smelling delicious!
- When your hair is wet and only use this when it’s wet, you need to rub a tiny pea size amount of product between your palms – apply through the hair and then lightly scrunch. Keep going until all of your hair has a light coating. Apply it sparingly and it’s magic. This is my number one transformative curly step.
Once my hair is 75% dry and to make my hair smooth for the rest of the day, I add a little: Boucleme Curl Crème.
- Created using humidity resistant Kukai nut oil and coconut, it keeps my hair beautifully frizz free for the rest of the day.
- Once I’ve done this, I sit back and wait. Cue the music and me having a cup of Earl Grey while I do my make up or more often, stare into space and daydream!
- Either air dry or slow diffuse.
I just can’t diffuse- Curlies claim it gives more volume and cuts your routine in half. Maybe it’s just me but I enjoy having the time when air drying, I get on with odd jobs and take a breath. Yes, it’s annoying when in a rush but that’s what curly buns are for 😉
- Deep condition whenever and wherever you can.
I’m a hairdressers’ dream as whenever they try to upsell a deep conditioning treatment, I nearly jump out of my chair as I say “Yes!”. However, as I only visit the hairdressers a few times a year, my favourite way to deep condition is in the comfort of my own home. I have some favourite masks I’ve bought but more often than not I prefer to deep condition by mixing up a quick and easy nourishing mask.
- A tablespoon of honey
- An egg
- A teaspoon of coconut oil
- Optional – A teaspoon of castor oil (This is for hair growth and the most exciting ingredient in my opinion)
Mix it together, pour onto your hair, tie it up and leave it. Try to do this once a week to promote a healthy hair and scalp. Leave it on as long as you’d like – 20 minutes is usually enough but if you’re really trying to grow your hair or have a lot of damage, sleep in it and wash it out in the morning.
- Once you’ve finished, seal and go!
If I want my curls to stay super sleek all day or I know I won’t have time to wash my hair the next day. I like to seal the ends of my hair with a super hydrating product.
My favourite at the moment is: Novex Mystic Black Deep Hair Mask
I frequently use this as a mask but as the texture isn’t sticky, I use it as a leave in product too. On the end of each curl I apply a small amount of product which keeps my ends lovely and sleek. I can highlyyyyy recommend this product as a mask or leave on for anyone with dry, damaged hair plus it really helps prevent frizz the next day. Novex is a well known Brazilian brand and as we all know, Brazilians are famous for their curls!
- Baobab Tree Oil – this tree grows in Africa and is an amazing source of Omega 3,6&9 and Vitamin A, C, D and E which gives it that gorgeous rich hydration.
- Sulphate, paraben and silicone free and smells delicious!
To my curly girls, I hope this has helped. Please like and comment as always with any feedback or questions. Also readers please let me know if you’d like me to give you some more information on DIY products at home.
Lots of love as always,